Siblings Fighting Over a Toy
The Situation
Two children are fighting over the same toy, both claiming they had it first. The conflict is escalating.
Goal
Help children learn conflict resolution skills while being fair to both.
What to Say
"I see two kids who both want the same toy. That's hard." "Let's put the toy aside for a minute and figure this out together." "What ideas do you have for solving this?"
What Not to Say
"Who had it first?" "Just share!" "If you can't share, no one gets it." "Be nice to your sister/brother."
3-Step Plan
Separate the children briefly if needed and calm everyone down. Don't take sides yet.
Let each child share their perspective without interruption. Reflect back what you hear.
Guide them to brainstorm solutions together. Let them choose the solution when possible.
Follow Up
Check back in 10 minutes to see if the solution is working. Praise cooperation.
Safety Note
If conflicts become physical regularly, separate children and address the pattern, not just the incident.
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