Child Won't Go to Sleep
The Situation
It's past bedtime and your child keeps getting out of bed, asking for water, another story, or saying they're scared.
Goal
Create a calm end to the day that helps your child feel secure and learn to self-settle.
What to Say
"I know it's hard to fall asleep sometimes. Your bed is safe and cozy." "We've had our water and stories. Now it's time for sleep." "I'll check on you in 5 minutes."
What Not to Say
"If you get out of bed one more time..." "There's nothing to be scared of." "Go to sleep right now!"
3-Step Plan
Ensure the bedtime routine is consistent and calming - same time, same steps each night.
Address legitimate needs calmly but briefly. Don't engage in long conversations.
Use "silent returns" - walk them back to bed with minimal interaction if they get up.
Follow Up
Talk during the day about nighttime fears. Consider a small reward chart for staying in bed.
Safety Note
Sudden sleep changes can indicate stress, illness, or developmental changes. Consider the bigger picture.
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