Teen Constantly on Their Phone
The Situation
Your teenager is glued to their phone during family time, meals, or late at night, and gets defensive when you address it.
Goal
Establish healthy tech boundaries while respecting their social needs.
What to Say
"I need you present during dinner - phones in the basket." "Let's talk about screen time limits that work for both of us." "I'm not trying to control you, but I need you to balance online and offline life."
What Not to Say
"You're addicted to that thing!" "Give me your phone right now!" "In my day we didn't have phones and we were fine." "You care more about your phone than your family."
3-Step Plan
Set clear family rules together - no phones during meals, bedrooms by X time, etc.
Model the behavior yourself. Put your own phone away during family time.
Focus on connection, not control. Create phone-free activities they actually enjoy.
Follow Up
Check in weekly about balance. Ask about their online life with genuine curiosity, not judgment.
Safety Note
Excessive phone use can mask anxiety, depression, or social struggles. Watch for changes in mood or isolation.
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