Child Refusing to Do Homework
The Situation
Your elementary-age child complains, procrastinates, or melts down when it's time to do homework.
Goal
Help them develop homework habits while avoiding power struggles.
What to Say
"Let's look at your homework together and make a plan." "Which subject do you want to start with?" "I can see this is hard. Let's take a quick break and come back to it."
What Not to Say
"You're not leaving the table until it's done." "Why is this so hard for you?" "You should have done this at school."
3-Step Plan
Set up a consistent homework time and space. Same time daily, quiet area, supplies ready.
Break homework into chunks. Work for 15-20 minutes, then take a 5-minute movement break.
Be available to help, but don't do it for them. Ask guiding questions rather than giving answers.
Follow Up
Communicate with the teacher if homework is consistently too hard or taking too long. Adjust expectations if needed.
Safety Note
Severe homework resistance may indicate learning difficulties, attention issues, or anxiety. Consider evaluation if it's persistent.
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