Cyberbullying: What to Do When It Happens to Your Child
The Situation
You've discovered your child is being bullied online — through gaming chats, social media, or group texts — and they are distressed, withdrawn, or afraid to go online.
Goal
Take immediate, effective action to stop the bullying, support your child emotionally, and involve the right people at the right time.
What to Say
'I'm so glad you told me. This is not your fault at all.' / 'We're going to figure this out together — you don't have to face this alone.' / 'Show me what happened so I can understand.'
What Not to Say
'Just ignore it.' / 'Don't be so sensitive.' / 'I told you social media was a bad idea.' / 'Why didn't you tell me sooner?' / Reacting with anger that makes your child feel worse.
3-Step Plan
Document everything first. Screenshot the messages, posts, or content before blocking or reporting — you may need evidence later. Save dates, times, and platform names.
Report and block on the platform. Every major platform has a reporting mechanism for harassment. Block the bully's account. For serious threats, contact law enforcement.
Involve the school if the bully is a classmate — even if it happened online. Most schools have cyberbullying policies. Provide them with documentation and follow up in writing.
Follow Up
Check in with your child regularly after the incident. Cyberbullying causes real psychological harm. Watch for signs of anxiety, depression, school avoidance, or changes in behavior. A few sessions with a counselor can be very helpful.
Safety Note
If the bullying involves threats of violence, sexual content, or involves an adult targeting your child, contact local police and report to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at cybertipline.org. Do not wait.
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