Sibling Hitting or Physical Fighting
The Situation
One sibling hits, kicks, or physically hurts the other during an argument or out of frustration.
Goal
Stop the behavior immediately, address feelings, and set clear boundaries without escalating.
What to Say
"Stop. Hitting hurts. I won't allow anyone to be hurt in our home. Let's separate and calm down."
What Not to Say
"Why do you always do this?" / "Say sorry NOW." / "You're just like [other sibling]."
3-Step Plan
Physically separate them immediately. Stay calm and firm — no yelling.
Attend to the hurt child first. This is natural and also teaches the hitter about consequences.
Once calm, have a brief problem-solving talk: "What happened? What could you do differently next time?"
Follow Up
Look for patterns — tired, hungry, bored? Address root causes. Create a 'peace corner' they can go to when upset.
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