3-5
Bedtime Stalling and Refusing to Sleep
The Situation
Your child keeps getting out of bed, asking for water, claiming fears, or otherwise avoiding sleep.
Goal
Create a calm, predictable bedtime that reduces anxiety and stalling.
What to Say
"We've done our whole routine. Your body needs sleep to grow strong. I'll check on you in 5 minutes."
What Not to Say
"Go to sleep RIGHT NOW!" / "I'm done with this every night!" / "Fine, just watch your tablet."
3-Step Plan
1
Build a consistent, short routine: bath, brush teeth, story, lights out. Same order, every night.
2
Pre-empt requests — offer water, a last hug, a bathroom trip before the lights go out.
3
If they come out, return them calmly and boringly with minimal interaction. Every time.
Follow Up
A visual bedtime chart can help younger children feel in control of the routine themselves.
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