Talking to Your Child About Death
The Situation
A family member, pet, or someone in your community has died, and your child is asking questions or showing distress.
Goal
Give honest, age-appropriate answers that comfort and support healthy grieving.
What to Say
"Grandma died, which means her body stopped working and she won't be coming back. It's okay to feel sad. I feel sad too. We can talk about her whenever you want."
What Not to Say
"She went to sleep." (creates sleep anxiety) / "We lost her." (confusing) / "Don't be sad, she's in a better place."
3-Step Plan
Use clear, honest language. Avoid euphemisms that confuse young children.
Follow their lead — answer only what they ask. Don't over-explain. Let silence be okay.
Allow all feelings — sadness, anger, even laughter. Grief doesn't look one way.
Follow Up
Keep routines stable. Mention the person naturally in conversation — memories keep love alive.
Safety Note
If your child expresses guilt about the death or shows prolonged severe grief, consult a child therapist.
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