Sibling Fighting: Breaking It Up
The Situation
Two or more siblings are arguing, name-calling, or physically fighting over a toy, space, or perceived unfairness.
Goal
Interrupt the conflict, ensure safety, and guide children toward resolving it themselves.
What to Say
"Stop. Everyone take a breath. I can see this got really heated. Tell me one at a time — no interrupting."
What Not to Say
"Why can't you two just get along?!" / "You're older, you should know better!" / Taking sides without hearing both out.
3-Step Plan
Physically separate them if needed. Get down to their level. Stay neutral — don't take sides immediately.
Hear each child briefly: 'Tell me what happened.' Reflect back: 'So you felt... and you felt...' Validate both.
Ask: 'What could you both do differently?' Guide them to a solution. Don't always solve it for them.
Follow Up
Praise them when they figure it out: 'I'm proud of how you worked that out together.' Build conflict resolution skills over time.
Safety Note
If fighting becomes physical and one child is at risk of being hurt, intervene immediately and address safety first.
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