When Your Child Is Being Bullied
The Situation
Your child tells you they are being bullied at school — excluded, teased, physically hurt, or harassed online.
Goal
Respond in a way that makes your child feel believed, supported, and empowered — and take appropriate action.
What to Say
"Thank you for telling me. That took courage. What's happening is not okay, and it is not your fault. We're going to figure this out together."
What Not to Say
"Just ignore them." / "You must have done something to provoke it." / "Toughen up." / Immediately threatening to 'handle it yourself.'
3-Step Plan
Listen fully without interrupting. Believe them. Don't minimize or problem-solve immediately. Just be present and empathetic first.
Gather information: What happened? Who? When? How long? Has your child tried anything? Write it down.
Contact the school formally — email or meet with a teacher or counselor. Keep records of all incidents.
Follow Up
Check in regularly. Rebuild your child's confidence through activities they're good at. Consider counseling if the impact is significant.
Safety Note
If your child is in physical danger or expressing hopelessness/self-harm, act immediately. Contact the school and seek mental health support right away.
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